Men are subject to domestic violence in the same proportion as women. It is not a gender issue.

Men are subjected to domestic violence in the same proportions as women. Since I wrote that I have been asked to provide references for my position. Here are some reliable academic references as a starting point for those who are interested.

Also, to almost everybody’s surprise, men and women perpetrate IPV at near-equal rates (Archer, 2000; Ehrensaft, Moffitt, & Caspi, 2004).2

Cited Eli J. Finkel, Northwestern University and Christopher I. Eckhardt Purdue University file://localhost/(2011) http/::bit.ly:15CPeBq

 

In spite of this well-accepted belief, studies have supported that conceptualizing family violence in this way is inaccurate. Hamel (2009) found the patriarchal model most commonly used to frame domestic violence incorrectly assumes that men perpetrate the vast majority of abuse that is considered severe. Results of a study conducted by Robertson and Murachver (2007) support that there are few differences between men and women who abuse in regard to frequency, severity, and injury. Straus and Gelles (1990) found that mothers, not fathers, were more often the perpetrators of physical abuse within the family. Recently, research has been conducted that contends when all available data are evaluated, abuse is perpetuated at a relatively equal rate between men and women with women slightly more likely to engage in severe violent acts than men (Gilfus et al., 2010; Hamel, 2009). Accounting

for the fact that men are not the only perpetrators of family violence is a crucial step forward in family violence research.

Reference

Mandy Morrill and Curt Bachman (2012) Confronting the Gender Myth : An Exploration of Variance in Male Versus Female Experience With Sibling Abuse.

Journal of Interpersonal Violence. 2013 28: p1695. DOI: 10.1177/0886260512468324

 

While I was on placement on a medical ward for older people, it was reported during handover that a man with  dementia who had been admitted the previous evening was being abused at home. When a healthcare assistant asked who was perpetrating the abuse, the nurse handing over told us it was theman’s wife. I felt shocked by this, as did some of the other staff, yet a few of them sniggered. I did not feel that this was an appropriate response to the situation, and wondered about the underlyingattitudes of these staff members and how this might affect patient care. I worried that if I asked people directly what they thought, I might come across as challenging or confrontational.  So I decided to read about domestic violence, and attitudes towards it, to inform myself and my future practice.

A study on aggression in heterosexual relationships found that women were more likely than men to use one or more act of physical aggression, and to use these acts more frequently, although men were more likely to inflict injury (Archer 2000).

Amy Wilkins (2011) Nursing Standard. p26-27w3_Reflections 4 copy 19/09/2011 16:05 Page 26

Referencing  Archer J (2000) Sex Differences in Aggression Between Heterosexual Partners: A Meta-Analytic Review. PsychologicalBulletin. 126, 5, 651-680

Does sexism only effect woman?

The political chatter about sexism in Australian politics leaves me cold. It is all about how us sexist misogynous men are so mean and cruel to women.

What about the million men who victims of on-going domestic violence? What about the sexist family courts who make wild discussions, such as the women being the natural parent, based only on completely sexist attitudes? Sexism against men goes way beyond calling people names and making judgements based only on genitalia.

Sexism against men is enshrines in our legal system from the attitude of our police to domestic violence, the support and welfare available to women but not men through to the totally sexist family courts.

No-fault divorce is a nice concept but in practice it does not allow men to say what is really going on in a marriage. Men are not allowed to say that they are married to a violent alcohol and they fear for their children. Not allowed.

So the courts give custody of children and strip men of their assts so that the societal myth that some how violence, and a multitude of other sins are gender based.

Before I get the usual hate mail from the Feminist Mafia (masquerading as feminists) I will state my position again. I am for equality. Real equality where nobody is judged solely on his/her sex. I am for the concept that there are some nice people and some not so nice people ‘out there.’ Some are women and some are men.

So please Ms Gillard, if you want to spray about misogyny please look at the reasons why some men can be excused for hating women. I don’t agree with them but until there is real equality in our society and under the law, and ‘equality’ does not translate to feminist superiority it is going to continue.

Domestic Violence. Women are just as violent as men

Following my blog on male suicides and the inability of our society to accept men are subjected to domestic violence in the same proportions as women I have been asked to provide references for my position. Here are some reliable academic references as a starting point for those who are interested.

Also, to almost everybody’s surprise, men and women perpetrate IPV at near-equal rates (Archer, 2000; Ehrensaft, Moffitt, & Caspi, 2004).2

Cited Eli J. Finkel, Northwestern University and Christopher I. Eckhardt Purdue University file://localhost/(2011) http/::bit.ly:15CPeBq

 

In spite of this well-accepted belief, studies have supported that conceptualizing family violence in this way is inaccurate. Hamel (2009) found the patriarchal model most commonly used to frame domestic violence incorrectly assumes that men perpetrate the vast majority of abuse that is considered severe. Results of a study conducted by Robertson and Murachver (2007) support that there are few differences between men and women who abuse in regard to frequency, severity, and injury. Straus and Gelles (1990) found that mothers, not fathers, were more often the perpetrators of physical abuse within the family. Recently, research has been conducted that contends when all available data are evaluated, abuse is perpetuated at a relatively equal rate between men and women with women slightly more likely to engage in severe violent acts than men (Gilfus et al., 2010; Hamel, 2009). Accounting for the fact that men are not the only perpetrators of family violence is a crucial step forward in family violence research.

Reference

Mandy Morrill and Curt Bachman (2012) Confronting the Gender Myth : An Exploration of Variance in Male Versus Female Experience With Sibling Abuse.

Journal of Interpersonal Violence. 2013 28: p1695. DOI: 10.1177/0886260512468324

While I was on placement on a medical ward for older people, it was reported during handover that a man with  dementia who had been admitted the previous evening was being abused at home. When a healthcare assistant asked who was perpetrating the abuse, the nurse handing over told us it was theman’s wife. I felt shocked by this, as did some of the other staff, yet a few of them sniggered. I did not feel that this was an appropriate response to the situation, and wondered about the underlyingattitudes of these staff members and how this might affect patient care. I worried that if I asked people directly what they thought, I might come across as challenging or confrontational.  So I decided to read about domestic violence, and attitudes towards it, to inform myself and my future practice.

A study on aggression in heterosexual relationships found that women were more likely than men to use one or more act of physical aggression, and to use these acts more frequently, although men were more likely to inflict injury (Archer 2000).

Amy Wilkins (2011) Nursing Standard. p26-27w3_Reflections 4 copy 19/09/2011 16:05 Page 26

Referencing  Archer J (2000) Sex Differences in Aggression Between Heterosexual Partners: A Meta-Analytic Review. PsychologicalBulletin. 126, 5, 651-680

Male suicides. Men talk but society does not listen

There has been a strong emphasis on male suicides today. I heard a lot about the old chestnut about men not talking about their feelings. How do men talk about feelings when so many issues related to male mental wellness are ignored by society?

The big one is domestic abuse of men. For every abused women there is an abused man, but according to our society male victims do not exist.

Try being an abused man. There is nobody to talk to and a total lack of support. When the only way out is leaving the relationship all there is to look forward is being alienated from their children, being stripped of their assets and the vilest form of character assassination imaginable.

Men don’t talk about feelings? Is it more that society doesn’t listen until it reaches suicide? And even then society responds with band-aid solutions that do nothing to respond to the real issues. I heard much about how depression can be cured. How about doing something about the abuse to avoid the depression?

Society is unwilling to look at the real issues for men. Ignore men, refuse to accept the real issues surrounding things like domestic violence and then say ‘Isn’t it terrible that so many men commit suicide instead of talking about their problem?’

The talking is not the problem. It is society not listening that causes many of the problems.

Will Gillard Equality help Battered Husband?

With all the traffic about equality and sexual discrimination do battered Husbands get a mention?

There is no equality of treatment for female victims domestic abuse and male victims of domestic abuse. This does mean I want women to get less support. I want to see men getting the same support. The way battered husbands are treated in our courts is sexual discrimination as an art form. How can there be any equality that assumes that the woman is always the victim and the man always the perpetrator? Male victims are silenced by society pretending they don’t exist. How can a person demand equality when they don’t exist?

Why are we picking at equality bit by bit? Why do we have to fight for the rights of battered husbands? Why do we have to fight for the right of gays to get married? Why do we have to fight for any group’s rights?

Why not combine to present a united front? Why cannot we have a peoples rights group rather than women’s rights, men’s rights, gay rights and all the other group’s rights?

But until there can be a simple statement that discrimination and sexual inequality will not tolerated for me the issue left, right and centre is the plight of battered husbands in our society.